Random Ramblings

I logged into my blogger after a long time, and the credit goes to my dear friend Inder. He flattered me by saying that I write beautifully and though I know that's not entirely true , I tend to believe in the best of me. So here I am writing some nonsense which wont matter to anyone.
Initially I thought I will change the look of my blog and was confused between the 10 or 12 mediocre templates the blogger offered. I settled for the present one.......ya, I know its not great.......like I said mediocre ........well what does the template matter when I write so good!!!!

Did you guys see the movie "50 First Dates"?  A very special friend of mine recommended the movie to me and I fell in love with that movie. For those of you who do not know of the movie here is a synopsis.

Marine biologist Henry Roth (Adam Sandler) finds the perfect woman, Lucy Whitmore ( Drew Barrymore) and falls head over heels for her. But when he sees her the following day, she hasn't a clue as to who is he due to a rare brain disorder that wipes her memory clean every night. Now, with the help of his friend Ula,Henry has to concoct new and increasingly clever ways to meet her and get her to fall for him every day.

Initially I felt sad for Lucy when her brain disorder thing is revealed. But when I saw Henry trying to make her fall in love with him, I wanted to be her.....isn't that every girls dream...... your relationship will never grow old........it will always have the same spark and excitement everyday.

Getting down to reality, Is it really possible to love someone so much for that long a time with that much intensity? I have mixed feelings about this, I mean maybe it is possible but does it work out naturally or one has to put in a lot of patience, compromises and watever it is that is needed, to make it happen. Where does one draw a line, that if it is taking more than this, then its not worth it. When does one gets to the point where enough is enough? If you are truly, completely  in love  with someone then you NEVER get to the point where enough is enough. I have heard a lot of people saying I love her/him a lot but it did not work out, we are different people, we had this issue, we had that issue.............. I want to ask them ....whom are you trying to bluff guys?

 

Well practically speaking its hard to find a person with whom you will never feel like enough is enough. But when you find that person life becomes worth living. I have yet to find that guy and though I am not sure I ever will, I will just be optimistic n hope for the best. This is the point where I think of my parents. For my mom, my dad is the person for whom she will never feel  enough is enough, I can vouch for that.....same is the case with my dad. They didn't even talk to each other before marriage and yet they are happy. At this point I start wondering that probably it all depends on how much we are willing to work towards a relationship, how much does it means to us, how much does it affect us if the relationship doesn't work and the most important being If we have other options........Once one realizes you have other options , and the grass always seems greener on the other side, one tends to want to jump to the other side.

 

And this is the point where I feel proud of my Indian Culture, where patience and tolerance is advocated without which no relationship can survive. I guess that is reason for such low divorce rate in India. Sadly the trend is slowly changing, lot of Indians are opting for divorce.

Well I guess the world can only get worse and never better!!! With that I take leave for today.

Please let me know what you guys think!!!

Competition

This is the one word all of us hear like all the time, right from like 1 standard. You are asked to get the first rank always in school, u are asked to get good rank in Eamcet , then latter in ur life ur pay is compared to others , ur standard of living ...so on n so forth.

But in this mad frenzy, one forgets the real competition. I think the real competition shud be with ourselves. I mean one shud always strive to be better than one was a minute ago or an hour ago or a day ago. If you cant be better than the person u were yesterday, whats the point in living. If I achieve this , I mean the being better than myself everyday ...Bingo ..I win the biggest competition of all time.

Its not actually as it sounds ........its hard getting constantly better .....especially when there are so many temptations in life. Add to that the zero support people give you when u want to do the right thing. My parents never even told me that the real competition is to be excel at being yourself. I wish all parents taught their children this funda, that u have to beat urself all the time. That will save us all a lot of tension n we will grow up to be great human beings.

I want to see that day .........lets hope for the best!!!

I am soooooooo sick

Actually I have been sick since last month, its nthg serious just severe headache and mild fever but its the frequency of its occurence thats serious. But it made me realise lot of things.

First thing I realises was however old you grow, u alwasy miss ur parents esp when u are sick or in deep trouble.I was just lying down with fever and headache yesterday, I wanted someoen to sit beside me hold my hand and say that I am going to be fine. Well its not like I have got some serious trouble, I will obviously get fine but how nice it wud be to hear that from someone. How nice wud it be if someone asked me every 30 min if I wanted sthg to drink or eat or if i was gtg bored and wanted to watch tv or listen to some music. When I was at home not only my mom wud do all this and my dad wud come home soon n sit n chat wid me. All the aunties who used to stay near my house wud also coem daily and see how I was doing. All of this made me recover sooner I guess bcoz I believe in the power of the mind. All these people made me so happy that i always got better very soon. And here I was yesterday , all i thot even in my dreams that I was going to die ( and all i had was fever)

Second thing I realised was my sweet n caring frds. They made my life so much easier n enjoyable. They were liek my family , they loved me , told me when I did sthg wrng appreciated me when i did sthg great. And when I was sick they did everything my mom and dad did for me. I never missed mom n dad even when i was sick. I was so lucky to have them. kalyani used to give me reiki and heal me, ashrita and maduri took care of my needs , sindu n soni wud sit n chat wid me and crack stupid jokes n make me feel lively. Deepti used to call me up n make so much fuss of me.Inder, pandu n kalyan used to call me up. I felt so loved n cherished.But kalyani I think is the person I need to thank more than anyone else, she always made sure i never had even little bit of problem. I was really fortunate to have them.

I wish I was with them again, but then life is a bitch. All this also made me realise that my parents are getting old and they need me to take care of them. they need me to sit with them n talk to them. My mom had a surgery yesterday and here I am sitting in USA. I really wish I was with her n shared her pain.

Well .....it is never too late ......

whats with birthdays n cakes???????

A typical bday .....wake up at 12 in the night .....blow the candles ( which tactlessly reveal your age to everyone) and then cut the cake put a piece in someone elses mouth and they put some in your mouth ......then the cake is smeared all over the poor bday baby s face and hair and wherever ur imagination takes you. This sometimes is accompanied with champagne , eggs milk ......well it can be anythig you want!!!!

I always thot all this is such a waste of resources and holds no meaning, and I still do. But what began to dawn on me is that people do this just to make the day a little special and memorable n fun!!! It is just a regular , uncreative and readymade method to do so. But friends , believe me this boring method is better than to do nthg ......better than to sleep the whole day bcoz u fell sick!!!

TIP FOR A PEACEFUL BDAY ...........never expect anything for ur bday ............behave like its just another day ............

well I am being very pessimistic here ........but honestly .......have fun on ur bdays.........bcoz its special ...........bcoz its one more reason to be happy abt .........do whatever u feel like ...........no matter what pessimistic people like me think!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!

back after a long hiatus!!!

hello ..to who ever is reading this

I actually believed that I was the rudest, meanest and most inconsiderate person in the world. My friends , always supportive of me , dint support me on this. On the contrary they thot I was sweet and caring. I believed their opinion was biased. And I always made an effort not to hurt anyone , be polite and all that . However, I still cudnt stop myself.

But after a few years a si began meeting new people ....more n more new people .......it made see that there are people who are miles ahead of me in terms of being those horrible things I said above!!!! What can I say .....I was shocked ....well ....In a way I was happy that there are people worse than me ......so I am actually good if not better .......ok lets like quantify this issue so that veeryone has a better understanding. if zero is taken as refernece and anything below zero is considered rude ( the more negtaive u are the more rude or mean etc it is) and vice versa.

I was like just -1 and I thot i was horrible ..........but guess what ...there are people who are -20, -30 and -50. I implore these people to get their act together and start changing their behaviour, which brings us to why poeple are rude( to change sthg we shud know what is its cause ...)

Okay , we are generally rude to people when
(1) when we dont like the person
(2) when we dont like sthg the person says
(3) when u are just too arrogant to be polite

People .....if u dont like the person ......dont talk to them ....or if it is really necessary ..just talk socially and shut up!!!

and when u dont like sthg the other person says ........just say so ...voice ur opinion .....and there is one exception here .......if they are repeatedly being rude ...then thers no reason to hold back.....give them what they deserve ......

and to people who are too arrogant to be polite .......they say what goes around comes around .....so better be careful .......no one wnats to be treated badly .......its never too late .....so start being good and hopefully ......no one will treat U badly .....

Well I wrote this blog just to vent out my frustration ............no one has to actually follow what I said .........but honestly It never hurts to be good .......

okay

i donno

hey now i have no time ..... it took me this long to create this damn thing ..... now i ma too lazy to write up ........

bye for now